Hospice Maui offers free bereavement support service weekly provided by licensed professional counselors. Grief counseling is a specialist therapy approach and there are only few grief counselors on Maui. The H.E.A.L. (Helping Ease a Loss) grief support group provides an opportunity to share experiences and feelings regarding the death of a loved one and to listen to and learn from others.
We sponsored and now collaborates with Na Keiki O Emalia. They provide support to children, teens, and their families to help them heal after the death of a loved one.
If we do not have the opportunity to work through grief, trauma may be obscured for many years to come.
The H.E.A.L. (Helping Ease a Loss) grief support group provides an opportunity to share experiences and feelings regarding the death of your loved one and to listen to and learn from others. We all grieve differently. The H.E.A.L. grief support group meets weekly at Hospice Maui in Wailuku and is free of charge. Participants do not have to have been part of Hospice, but do need to have experienced the death of a loved one in the last 3 years. Participants share about the death of their loved one, how their grief is progressing, what has worked to help them, what challenges they are facing etc. We all grieve differently. Many people don’t feel the need of a support group until long after the death of a loved one. Come whenever you are ready, whether it is soon after your loved one’s death, or much later.
Hospice Maui 400 Mahalani Street in Wailuku
(On the hill across and above the Maui Memorial Medical Center)
Meeting DAYS / TIMES – 2016 H.E.A.L. Meeting Schedule
Alternating each week, Tue. 3:00 p.m. – 4:30 p.m. or Wed. 6:00 p.m. – 7:30 p.m.
H.E.A.L. Group Facilitators
Hospice Maui Bereavement Counselors
Joyce Lechuga RN, MS, MFCC
Evelyn Billington, Ph.D.
Ilona Briley, RN
Prakash Mackay, MA
Edy SAlenger, RN, CHPN
Karima Morgan, MA
Reconnecting with Life after Loss
is a 6-session bereavement support group for individuals who are grieving the death of a loved-one, and are ready to re-enter life with renewed and new-found inspiration.
The purpose of this support group is to continue supporting the bereaved as they transition into life without their loved-one, and focuses on establishing a renewed sense of self, purpose, and personal interest. The five sessions include sharing insights and experiences through discussion, combined with interactive activities. This program is offered free of charge. Participants do not have to have had loved ones served by Hospice Maui.
It is O.K. to Grieve
While it may carry with it a myriad of emotions – sadness, loneliness, guilt, anger, despair, and depression, to name a few – grief is as much as a process as it is a set of feelings. It can also be a long and difficult journey. The grieving process takes time, so don’t try to rush it. It takes some people years to complete the journey. Just when you think you have a handle on your grief, something occurs to serve as a reminder that you haven’t completed the grieving process after all – a birthday or holiday, a favorite song, a movie, an activity. All of this is normal. Most long and difficult journeys can be made a bit easier when one knows what to expect and prepares accordingly.
Familiarize yourself with the grief process. You may try to lessen the burden of grief by denying your negative emotions. You go back to work and your daily routine, acting as if everything is normal again. From down inside you somewhere, however, those slices of pain gnaw at you – the loneliness, the sorrow, the fear of what tomorrow, or next month, or next year may bring. Until you deal with your pain and your loss, you may prolong your emotional and even your physical healing.
When you confront your grief, you allow yourself to work through those hurtful emotions that may be preventing you from returning to a normal existence. You can slowly let go of the past and face what lies ahead which, believe it or not, is a sense of normalcy and a restoration of your heart and reestablishment of your self.
Every difficult journey seems more manageable when you don’t have to travel alone. Find those who have made similar journeys. Listen to their accounts and have them listen to yours. An excellent vehicle for this is Hospice Maui’s H.E.A.L. Group. Seek spiritual guidance and support. If you belong to a church, talk to a counselor. Visit your local library, or Hospice Maui’s library for books written by people who have been through the grief process. Access the numerous resources available on the internet.
You have tears that have yet to be shed but you may feel self-conscious, that perhaps if you suddenly begin to cry you’ll draw attention to yourself. Or, you feel that if you cry, people will ask why and you’re just not quite ready to talk about your grief. Did you know that tears contain leucine-enkephalin, which is actually a natural pain reliever?
Anger and resentment are quite normal in the grief process. At some point, you may harbor resentment or feelings of betrayal toward the person who “left you behind” or “left you all alone.” Or perhaps you’re angry and want to find someone to “blame” for allowing your loved one to be taken from you. Find a physical way to release these feelings but do so in a way that won’t bring harm to you or someone else. Pick up a rock and throw it as hard and as far as you can into the ocean. Go to the driving range and really let those golf balls have it. Wait until no one else is around and yell at the top of your lungs.
Anger and sadness and depression are energy zappers. Take heart and congratulate yourself as you make progress overcoming your grief. As the weeks pass, notice how far you’ve come. You’ll never get back what you lost. But as you make the journey through grief, you can gain strength and return to a relatively normal life again. Who knows? In some ways you may be stronger and richer for having made the journey.
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